March 20, 2019

The Truth About My Engagement Ring

FILED IN: Pretty For Real

Marc and I got engaged on Christmas Eve 1998. I remember thinking that my engagement ring was the most beautiful ring in the world. It was a simple 1-carat Princess-cut solitaire, set in gold. I loved everything about that ring and what it represented, and I never took it off. Fast forward two years later, a pregnancy and an extra 20-pounds that I could never get rid of and all of a sudden, that size 6 ring felt more like a tourniquet. I could barely get it on my finger and, if I did, I would pray that I wouldn't need a stick of butter to remove it. I kept telling myself that I didn't need to resize it, that I would just lose the weight, but I never did. So I became used to only wearing a wedding band, and I didn't even always wear that. It has nothing to do with not wanting to appear married, but rather because I am SUPER absent-minded and I would take my ring off and put it in a purse or pocket and lose it for weeks. UGH, right?

It never seemed like a huge deal not to wear rings. I'm not trolling bars or looking to pick up men, so it never felt like an issue to me. And then Dance Moms started airing. All of a sudden, I was getting questions continuously about why didn't I wear a wedding ring. Was I separated? What was the deal with Marc? It was such an odd thing to think that people were so concerned about the state of my left-hand jewelry. I think I answered that question more often than any other, so I started to wear my ring again.

And then on the 15th anniversary of our engagement, Marc surprised me with a new ring set. Perhaps he was tired of me bitching that I no longer liked gold jewelry? Maybe he wanted to give me a reason to wear my rings consistently? Whatever the reason, I'll take it.

I then decided that I felt guilty for not wearing my original ring and was cheating on it, so I decided the perfect solution would be to reset it and wear it as a right-hand ring. I wasn't exactly sure what I wanted, but I knew that I did not want that ring to look like an engagement ring. I wanted it to be more of a statement and a little “fun.” I searched high and low for inspo and finally found something I KINDA liked, but it wasn't exactly “right.”

So, armed with my inspiration photo and my old ring, I went to XIV Karats in Beverly Hills and talked to their jeweler. He seemed to get what I wanted, and I left my original ring there for about a week. I went back for a fitting for the new design, while I liked where it was going, it was difficult to envision the final piece.

About another week went by, and I went and picked up the final ring. I saw it and was in LOVE. It was exactly what I wanted: it didn't look like an engagement ring on my right hand, and it featured the diamond the had meant so much to me. Whenever I wear this ring, I get TONS of compliments everywhere I go. It's perfect, and I am happy that I made the decision to reset the stone, instead of just having it sit in my jewelry box. And, of course, my girls have called dibs on who gets which ring after I die (thanks, ladies) and I'm thrilled to have one to give to each of them.

So, that's it from me today. Thank you so much for reading AND sharing!

XO, Christi

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  1. Kathy Underwood

    March 20th, 2019 at 4:12 pm

    It’s a beautiful ring and what a lovely thing to do rather than have it hidden away in your jewellery box! It’s super that you also have one for each of the girls ❤️ Thankyou for sharing with us all xx

  2. Rachael

    March 20th, 2019 at 5:42 pm

    My engagement ring was too small and I had to have it cut off at the emergency room Christmas Day! I wish I would have only needed a stick of butter to get it off! 😂

    A sweet story none the less, and I never noticed you weren’t wearing a ring.

  3. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:51 am

    OH EM GEEEEE! You are KIDDING me. Thats awful. I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you were able to replace or reset it! XO, Christi

  4. Deandre Hanlon

    March 20th, 2019 at 6:44 pm

    It’s a beautiful ring… I’m glad Marc was understanding to the fact that you knew what you wanted and took time with the fact that a ring while it’s being given to show the symbol of togetherness.. as females we should also have the bond with our ring… I didn’t really like my ring either.. while mine was a beautiful ring and I appreciate the time and effort he put in it.. I just wanted a band… plain and simple nothing to it other than the date we got married.. so I didn’t wear it.. unless my husband and I were going out.. not that I didn’t like it… it just felt annoying being on my finger..
    I think I should redo mine… sweet idea..

  5. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:52 am

    Hi Deandre, I encourage you to reset it! I love mine and it makes me so happy to wear it. You wont regret it. XO, Christi

  6. Elizabeth

    March 20th, 2019 at 7:30 pm

    I love this story. My mom has my dad’s grandma’s engagement ring bc he was working to save money for her ring and he got really sick and had to stop working so his grandma took her ring off her finger and told him to propose with it.

  7. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:53 am

    Hi Elizabeth, THis is literally the sweetest thing I have ever heard. Your family sounds spectacular. Lucky lady! XO, Christi

  8. Ava

    March 20th, 2019 at 8:14 pm

    Love u love Ava

  9. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:53 am

    Love you too, Ava!! Xo, Christi

  10. Michelle

    March 20th, 2019 at 8:22 pm

    Christi, that is such a beautiful ring . Such a good idea rather than leaving it in your jewelry box.

    My Nanny (grandma) left me her engagement ring which I love as its very unique its either gold and gold with simple diamonds in it. And it’s 60 years old so for that time very unique . I don’t take it off me unless it’s to be cleaned .

    Also your new set of rings are beautiful and how lovely of Marc .

    Don’t understand why people felt it their business on if you wore your rings or not . Some ppl have to much time.

    Loving the blog. Michelle xoxo

  11. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:54 am

    Hi Michelle, Thanks for the love!! I love that you have your nanny’s ring. So sweet and sentimental. XO, Christi

  12. Jonathan Enrique

    March 20th, 2019 at 8:29 pm

    What a great Story!! ❤️ I’m I big fan of you and your daughters:)) Keep Writing Amazing Storys 📕

  13. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:55 am

    Thanks for the loving words! Much appreciated! XO, Christi

  14. Rebekah Long

    March 20th, 2019 at 8:41 pm

    I love that ring. People who watch TV shows, movies etc. Forget that the stars have lives outside of their acting job. They pry into personal affairs like little squirrels. But I’m really happy you got the ring you wanted, it is a lovely ring after all and you deserve it.

  15. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:55 am

    “Like squirrels” made me LOL. Thats a super funny comparison. Thanks for the love and understanding. XO, Christi

  16. Mia

    March 20th, 2019 at 8:55 pm

    Thank for sharing your story!

  17. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:56 am

    My pleasure, Mia!! Xo, Christi

  18. Carly

    March 20th, 2019 at 8:58 pm

    Such beautiful rings Christi! You and Marc are so lucky to have each other and two amazing girls! In all honesty it doesn’t have anything to do with the public about why you didn’t have your rings on while on Dance Moms… you rock! One of my inspirations! You have helped me control my depression and anxiety without even knowing it… so big thank you! Can’t wait to see more on your blog… ❤️

  19. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:56 am

    Hi Carly, Thanks for the love and I am so happy to hear that I helped you in any little way. XO, Christi

  20. Amy

    March 20th, 2019 at 10:49 pm

    Christi that is a amazing story I loved it thank you very much for sharing 💕❤️✨🎖

  21. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:57 am

    Hi Amy, You are so welcome!! XO, Christi

  22. Keisha broomes

    March 21st, 2019 at 2:39 am

    It is so beautiful, a beautiful ring for a beautiful woman.

  23. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:57 am

    You are the sweetest! Thank you! XO, Christi

  24. Diane Gastfreund

    March 21st, 2019 at 5:22 am

    It is a really beautiful ring. You do not owe anyone an excuse as to why you did not wear the ring. That is between you and your husband although I must admit I was a little curious. Your beauty is what makes the ring so gorgeous.

  25. clukasiak

    March 27th, 2019 at 1:58 am

    Hi Diane, Thanks for your sweet words! Much appreciated. XO, Christi

  26. Susan Garcia

    March 21st, 2019 at 6:13 am

    Fabulous idea and it’s really beautiful! I really love the new set too! Marc must be a sweetie. When you were on DMS, it would never occur to me to ask. None of my business. I love rings, but l also know how bad it sucks when you gain or lose weight. I love your blog, thanks for including us in a corner of your life! ❤

  27. Renee

    March 22nd, 2019 at 2:30 am

    Love the new design of your original ring x 💕

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